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furrbear ([personal profile] furrbear) wrote2009-10-19 11:41 am

Decaf Karma

I wonder if that new arrival to Dallas from 10 years ago that I hung around with for a couple months ever developed any compassion and empathy? I know his comment about depression and its meds made me mostly avoid him from then on. I got a good hearty chuckle two weeks later when he wanted to know why I had not been at church, "I miss seeing my friends" - yeah right, probably just the non-"crazy" ones.

I can't complain about it too much; it allowed me to make new better friends and a few of those I consider family. It also pushed me to get the hell out of Dallas and get serious with David. The main negative effect was that it left me overly cautious about letting folks get to know me ever since and left him to dwindle down to the level of acquaintance.

Domestic abuse is never pretty and it often leaves non-visible scars. There is no excuse for calling someone 'crazy' as a result of those scars.

Karma can be rough - make mine decaf.

[identity profile] furrbear.livejournal.com 2009-10-19 08:05 pm (UTC)(link)
I actually got along quite well w/ Peter until about 2004/5. I think Peter was already here when this one arrived from Ohdianatuckysee.

[identity profile] winbear.livejournal.com 2009-10-19 09:37 pm (UTC)(link)
I thought of Peter also, but thought the dates were a little off but could have been "ball park" figures. There's not really anyone that springs to my mind when you mention "crazy" in the context of bears in Dallas for that long. Perhaps, I should just be quiet and be grateful.

[identity profile] furrbear.livejournal.com 2009-10-19 09:44 pm (UTC)(link)
No he referred to me as "crazy". Showed a LOT of interest at the pool party at y'all's place in mid Aug of 1999.
Edited 2009-10-19 21:47 (UTC)

[identity profile] winbear.livejournal.com 2009-10-19 09:52 pm (UTC)(link)
ok, I was struggling to recall a pool party from 2 months ago (and not at my place) and you edit it to be 10 years ago!

[identity profile] envirobear.livejournal.com 2009-10-20 04:01 am (UTC)(link)
We've seen more than a few people who have great insensitivity (not to mention failure to understand or empathize) about the non-visible scars, haven't we, Big Bro?

Your karma is fine. *bearhug*

[identity profile] fogbear.livejournal.com 2009-10-20 04:29 am (UTC)(link)
As is yours, my friend, as is yours.

[identity profile] fogbear.livejournal.com 2009-10-20 04:28 am (UTC)(link)
I prefer to think of "crazy" as a compliment. I've been surrounded by "crazy" people my whole life and I wouldn't want it any other way. Sane people are waaaay too boring.

*hugs*