Still wiped out from last night's card from David find. Got up normally today, but was exhausted by 10:30. Gave up and crawled in bed with a teddy bear. Got back up at 5:30 feeling sort of normal.
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I'd love to offer you words of comfort, like "it gets better", or "time heals all wounds" and that sort of BS. But, Scott can still be brought to tears about his late partner. Who died in 1989.
I told him about the card last night and brought him to tears. Your David was a pretty amazing guy. We have both been touched by your love for each other, and your loss.
Hang in there. Feel everything you need to feel. You are entitled to grieve. That card was pretty amazing.
Thank you, Gord. As others have told me, one doesn't get better, one doesn't move on, one only goes on living. The saving grace has been close friends who have gone through this in the past, such as my neighbor, Paul. I can ask him the "how long did you...?", and "What did you do to...?" type questions. That has helped me knowing I'm not going crazy from this.
A couple I know, Randy and Dave, have each lost a partner. Dave 20 years, ago. I'm not sure about Randy, but it had him on more brain meds than you and I combined. Another couple, Scott and Carl, each lost his partner 10 yrs ago. Scott's to appendicitis. Carl's to pneumonia that went untreated for too long.
Great icon. Did you see my teo FB statuses about that a week ago? "I may cry in private, but I need others around me in order to live" and "One thing I've learned is that the going on living is gradual. We let go of the grief bit by bit, but they're always with us, we never let go of them. -- Me on B411 to a friend going through the same events"
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Date: 2011-08-31 07:18 pm (UTC)I told him about the card last night and brought him to tears. Your David was a pretty amazing guy. We have both been touched by your love for each other, and your loss.
Hang in there. Feel everything you need to feel. You are entitled to grieve. That card was pretty amazing.
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Date: 2011-09-01 12:41 am (UTC)A couple I know, Randy and Dave, have each lost a partner. Dave 20 years, ago. I'm not sure about Randy, but it had him on more brain meds than you and I combined. Another couple, Scott and Carl, each lost his partner 10 yrs ago. Scott's to appendicitis. Carl's to pneumonia that went untreated for too long.
Great icon. Did you see my teo FB statuses about that a week ago? "I may cry in private, but I need others around me in order to live" and "One thing I've learned is that the going on living is gradual. We let go of the grief bit by bit, but they're always with us, we never let go of them. -- Me on B411 to a friend going through the same events"